Sometimes you want to pull your hair out. And run. Escape. Get as far away from the daily grind as you can. People wish their lives away waiting, waiting, waiting for five o’clock, for Friday, for the weekend, for that vacation scheduled in the far too off future. Always in search of the future, never happy in the present.
I was no exception to this rule for many years. And I can’t say that I don’t get excited for my lunch hour, for the end of the day, for my weekends, and for time off. But I’ve learned that constantly wishing your life way does exactly what you expected – wishes it away. And before you know it, moments – lots of moments – rush past you, and you find yourself not really recognizing the reflection in the mirror. And though all this time has passed, you’re still in the same place. Wishing. Waiting. Nowhere closer to that ever elusive far away.
There is a way to fix this, I have learned. A few, actually.
Take small breaks throughout your day, especially at work if you can. Focus on something in the distance when you look out your window. Or if you don’t have a window, focus on your neighbor’s desk plant. Take a deep breath. Inhale and imagine a place that makes you happiest. And when you exhale, take a step into that magical land. And stay there for as long as you can, even if it’s only a minute. Use your mind, an always ready vessel, to transport you to your far away.
If you find yourself dreading your job. Or your home. Or even your partner in life. And you find yourself constantly wishing to be somewhere far, far away, don’t just wish for it. Start to make changes now! Even recognizing that you want to change is a step.
If you hate your job, find a new one or learn a new skill so that you can change careers. We spend far too much of our time at work to despise it all the time.
If you are bored with your home or find it doesn’t suit you, come up with a plan to redecorate. Your home should be your perpetual far away, your sanctuary, your safe place.
And if you’re unhappy in a relationship, talk to your partner about it before it’s too late. And if “too late” is already here, then take the (hard) steps you need to toward a happy present.
Don’t make your first words out of your mouth every morning negative ones. Don’t constantly focus on things that you don’t have and days that have yet to come. Be grateful and appreciative. Even on the worst of days, we all have something and someone to be grateful for. Don’t lose sight of that. Positivity will enable you to move your life into different (and happier) faraway places.
We spend so much time dreaming of things that are so far away that we forget something very important. The grass isn’t always greener in that far away land.
Until next time,
Work toward making your present as beautiful and exciting as that exotic far away!